Tuesday, 5 April 2011

Messy Divorce

How do things always get so complicated and nasty? Me and my estranged husband are going through divorce proceedings. After being apart for near on ten months, the animosity just increases ten-fold.  The latest argument is the children. 

I just feel exhausted with it all. I look now and think that person that I shared a life with, shared a bed with, laughed with, cried with and had children with is a complete stranger to me.  The love has turned into hate. 

We have moved on with our lives and there is no hope of a reunion, yet I will be forever tied to him because of the children. 

Through all of this it is the children that have suffered the most.  As a mother I would do anything to protect them from this.  They are too young to be having to deal with these types of emotions.  My number one priority is to provide my kids with a stable, loving home environment.  I'm doing a bloody good job, even if I do say so myself. 

To my husband I say "Take me to court, I'll fight you every step of the way!" A mothers love is unconditional.  I'll scratch, bite, and claw anyone that invades my territory.


  1. Jayne, I am so sorry to hear of your troubles. Divorce is horrible. When I was getting divorced from my first husband (I am re-married now) it was all very amicable initially, but then became nasty when it came down to who got what money. In the end I had just had enough and didn't care if I was left with debts, I just wanted to be left alone. We didn't have children though, so at least we could just walk away from each other.

    It is so admirable and the most natural thing in the world to put your children first, and you just have to keep on doing what you are doing. I really am sorry that you are going through this. It's so bloody unfair when life throws things like this at us. Please stay strong for your children and yourself.

    Best wishes

  2. Hi hun, I too am sorry to hear this. I am going through a divorce right now too. It started nasty but now i dont talk to him at all really. He did agree to see the kids once a week, but that stopped when he moved in with his new family. My youngest still goes to his house at the weekend. That is one out of the five that still want to know him. I just gave up trying to persuade him to be a dad to them.
    On a good note though, i think your are doing a wonderful job with your children, and it will get better.

    Jaki xx